This section is designed to provide suggestions on how to maintain a safe, sane and enjoyable lifestyle, again it is not the gospel of the Lifestyle merely a few suggestions. And if you have suggestions you would like to add please feel free to email them to BDSM EROTICISM. Play safe and thank you for coming.

First Meetings

To begin, lets assume the you have been talking with a potential partner and have decided to take that next step and meet to see if both desire to move forward into a more personable relationship. To say that the submissive is the only person vulnerable is a misconception. Both parties are equally vulnerable when walking into an unknown situation, as easy as it is for the Dominant not to be who they say they are, the submissive can do the same. So keep this in mind when setting the parameters to meet your potential intended.

Each person should know as much as possible about the other and should see that a trusted friend who is aware of the meeting has copies of the the information. It is recommended that initial contact or the first meeting be kept to a short time frame and no play involved. It should be one for getting to know each other and developing a face to face common ground. Once this has been done and you decide you wish to continue then the following things may be helpful in maintaining a safe beginning to what both will hope to be a long and beautiful relationship.

Make sure that a safe person is available for you to check in with on a regular basis and have set times to do so with the understanding that no call means trouble. Make sure this person has the phone number of where you are at and has called you back to confirm that it is the correct one.

Make sure safe words are in use and that both parties understand the need for the safe word and adhere to them. Discuss on equal ground what is to occur during the meeting and that both parties agree and stick to the planned events. Consistency is important for a Dominant to maintain as well as the submissive for it is a building block in developing trust.

Information each should have on the other; full Name taken from a pictured ID preferably a Drivers License, Home address, Social Security number and Date of birth. Employer Name and Phone number and see that it is verified and If one is going to be traveling with the other the license plate, make and model of the vehicle used. Both the Dominant and submissive should have this information about the other and see that the safe person for both has this information.

Sessions

Sessions or scenes are generally intense and rather enjoyable to both parties, but things can still get a little carried away. It is recommended that a general first aid kit be kept handy to treat abrasions, burns (rope, hot wax.. etc.), minor cuts.. etc.. The first aid kit should include Hydrogen Peroxide, eye wash, antibacterial crème for abrasions and burns, bandages, Band-Aids and sterile pads as well as alcohol pads and protective gloves for use when treating. It is recommended that both parties take the time and attend a basic first aid class and learn basic lifesaving techniques such as CPR and what to do for choking.

All instruments used should be sterilized and kept clean for each session and should be cleaned before use again. Make sure that hands are kept clean and use latex gloves when necessary to ensure hazard free play.

When doing bondage scenes, make sure that the binds do not restrict the flow of blood and cut off circulation, tight bondage does not mean so tight that it cuts off the flow of blood.

Fisting should be done with care and caution. The top should wear a sterile latex glove and use some form of lubricant. Close attention should be paid to insertion and insertion should be done slowly. The bottom should be positioned so that the rectum or vagina has its easy and most comfortable access. Never force fisting the damage can be extensive.

Never attempt to do a scene your not experienced in doing such as fire play, electricity etc... Make sure you are knowledgeable about what you are doing.